A friend recently asked me, "Do you make time for yourself?" My reply was "Sure, I do things with my kids and I make time to spend with my husband." Then, she asked me, "Do you know how to take time for YOURSELF?" Point taken -- much of my "personal" time I spend with others (which I do enjoy), but I don't really take time by myself, solely for myself.
She gave me a gift card to a spa and told me to make an appointment. I appreciated her generosity, but was also a bit hesitant to accept it, as I also had the same gift card in my wallet (a gift from my kids 7 months before). Her gift card sat in my wallet for a couple of months too. But, I'm proud to say I have been to the spa and used her gift card. It took a while to unwind, to stop thinking about the ever growing list of things-to-do and to read my book. I understand why the receptionist suggests arriving an hour prior to your first appointment -- I always thought it was to avoid late arrivals, but I used the extra time for ME. I enjoyed the uninterrupted reading and planning some fun projects. The instrumental music and void of conversation evolved from uncomfortable to soothing. I almost wasn't ready to leave for my appointment.
When my kids were born, many of my friends suggested that moms and dads have weekly dates, to stay connected with each other. I'm starting to think that I need to also make a date for myself, to stay connected to my interests. I really enjoy cooking, sewing and knitting for others. I need to make more time for reading, crafting, sewing and knitting for myself. Sounds selfish, but I really felt refreshed after my day at the spa, which I think was more about a change of attitude than the effect of the spa treatments. I can't wait to use that other gift card.
How do you take time for yourself?
I have a 13 month old and one due in December, including a husband and a full time job. I really miss my days of uninterrupted sewing and mostly 'me' time! Before I had my first one, I would participate in my local quilt shop's "quilt 'til you wilt." It was one friday night a month where you could go and sew at the shop until 11 pm. I would go with my mom and have so much fun! -Nothing better than sewing and small town gossip- This summer, for my birthday, I got to leave the baby at home with dad and spent a whole Saturday afternoon at the shop with my mom. LOVED every minute of it!
ReplyDeleteYou never really do stop to think how much time you get to yourself, doing exactly what you want to be doing (and not feeling guilty in the process).
Melanie, I too am a quilter and patchwork enthusiast. Sadly, it has been a long time since I have pieced or quilted. Lately, I choose crafts that are portable (crochet, knitting, and some hand sewing).
ReplyDeleteI agree with you about overcoming the guilt, but easier said than done!
Thanks for stopping by and commenting. I'm heading over to your blog...I'm always looking for new ideas.